With February right around the corner and with it Valentine’s Day, we at Step Into Your Power would like to take the time to offer you encouraging instruction on how to enjoy the most powerful relationship in your life.  Over the next seven weeks I will be offering you seven tips for infusing your relationship with new purpose and vitality.  Each week I will offer more definition to each tip. Take the time to read each article and feel free to share it with people you know who may be blessed with the information.

7 Tips for Co-Creating a Powerful Romantic Partnership

1.  Take the month of February, the month of love, and keep track of how much time you purposefully set aside for intimacy.  Today’s busy couples are surviving on weekend sex alone.  There needs to be more effort put into this very important part of your relationship.  Most modern couples are living like sex camels, slogging along from one oasis to another.  Instead, let’s choose to switch from the camel model to the mouse model.  Mice drink a lot more often than camels do.

Just for the month of February keep track and see if you can’t get back on track.

Wow he’s talking about sex on the first tip.  Typical man.  Well as the token man writing this week let me in on a secret.  The males in the relationship aren’t the only ones missing out on a healthy love life.  We have dumbed down this important subject into nothing more than fluid and friction and we are missing the special, mystical and spiritual aspects of our love life. 

The sexiest book in the Bible is the Song of Solomon.  I preached a series on it in my church years ago and was told that from everyone in the congregation that it was the first time they had ever heard it read or explained from the pulpit.  In the Jewish tradition this book is recited before the celebration of Passover.  Yes it is meant to also symbolize the amazing love of God for His people, but the symbol used is our love life.

When we choose to touch the one we love with such devotion and passion in a way we are blessing them.  We are attempting to communicate without words how important and amazing we believe they are.  This is why casual sex is just sex, something strangers and livestock share, but committed sex, that is a powerful communication from one person to another that holds eternal meaning.

Now it may seem strange that something so mystical and significant needs to be kept track of but the record keeping is intended to be an eye opener, motivation to take the initiative.  Recently there have been a couple of books written about couples who chose to make love every day for an extended period of time, one couple for a whole year. (It was the husband’s 40th birthday gift.)  It sounds easier that it is really is, but each book shared the same message.  In order to even attempt this feat things had to change.  Schedules, expectations and settings had to be adjusted in order for their love life to take a priority again.

In some ancient culture men were forbidden to serve in the military their first year of marriage.  They were expected to remain home with their wife in order to make the most of their first year of marriage.  My first year of marriage was also my first year of ministry, 24 years ago.  If there is one thing I would change that would be it.  I would have married earlier or delayed my entry into ministry.  These two events should never have share the same 365 days.

The Jelly Bean theory is renowned and often true. If you place a jelly bean in a jar every time you make love your  first year of marriage and then take one out for every time you make love for the rest of your marriage, you die with jelly beans in the jar. 

I have an idea, let’s dismiss this myth and buy a new jar and bag of fresh jelly beans.  Let’s start over.  Let’s begin again.  2010 is the beginning of the Decade of Abundance, let’s allow the Abundance to include our Love Life.
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...With 24 years of experience and a tremendous track record with both areas of interest.  When a couple commits to therapy PK has enjoyed a zero divorce rate. PK hosts the popular "Step into A Powerful Relationship for Couples Series" beginning on March. 11.  PK spends six weeks with a small group of couples to assist them in appreciating who they are as a couple and who they can become in the future as individuals as well as a family. Practical principles are not only learned together but they are applied together. Your family deserves this kind of investment. CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE

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"Timing is perfect! Your couples telecourse brought some refreshing surprises. The commitment 33 years ago to love, honour and cherish my husband is again front and center in my relationship. The simple concepts I learned are making a huge difference. I'm so grateful!" Mrs. K - couples participant

"After 20 years of marriage we were in the habit of putting most other people and obligations before our own relationship and our marriage.  We are a very successful couple and "efficient" as a team parenting our great kids.  But our love life was less than ideal.  After taking Kevin's course, we have a better understanding of why and how important it is to put our marriage first.  We focus on our relationship and eachother daily and, although we have a long way to go, we are on our way to re-discovering our love and passion for each other. Thanks, Keven, for helping us re-discover how much we still love each other and how important our relationship is.  We can't wait for our next date!" N - couples participant